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Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Utopia : L O V E

If I say love is an abstract word nearly absurd, will you agree with me? Here I spill the never-ending question goes with the never-ending answers : What is Love?
Don't tell me about speaking cliché before you read this following post.

I have had this anguish for a long time, but I'm pretty happy with this state of life and whatever surrounding me, so I locked this matter deep down. The effing trigger was this one movie, cute except the fact that I hate the ending : "500 Days of Summer" For you who has watched the movie, save your opinion, for those who hasn't maybe you want to check the movie here. But for those who hasn't and too busy to check the site, I'm gonna share the flow of the story below.


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There was a girl name Summer (Zooey Deschanel), freely live her life, one of the no-need-a-relationship girl. For her, as long as she and her close friend were happy, they didn't need any boyfriend-girlfriend label. Too bad she met Tom (Joseph Gordon-Levitt) who desperately believe in love and all the label behind it. He believed in soul mate, that people were created  in pairs, and everything happened for a reason, anything's meant to be.

They had a very happy moments together, with Tom agreeing the no-label and being casual thing. There were no single problem arose until Summer started to act weird, and tried to leave Tom. She thought that this was a casual relationship so there will be no such thing called break-up, she can leave anytime she's no longer happy.

Sadly, but obviously, this decision tear Tom apart. He didn't completely realize what a-casual-relationship meant, and fell deeply for Summer. He needs hundreds of days to get back on the ground.

After Summer left, the story continue with Summer and Tom met in colleague's wedding party, then she invited Tom to a party she hosted. Tom came with a bright smile and hope, but later on he found out that summer has engaged. His wold fell through the worst scene he can never imagine. He threw away all his old beliefs about love and its magical things.

Like I said before, what I hate about this movie is the ending, pretty much 10minutes of it. It's not that I don't like Summer and Tom separated, it just Summer's plain abstract explanation about being in love.

This ending was on Tom's favorite spot in the city. Tom asked her about her 180° change, about her doesn't-wanna-be-anybody's-girlfriend attitude now turning into someone's wife. She said she fell in love, Tom was right about soul mate, and everything really is meant to be. She just woke up in the morning suddenly feel so sure about the now-husband-guy. She also said that Tom was right about love, but only he's wrong about her.

I say : Yeah, right. So right, miss Just-wake-up-and-be-sure!

I wish, I really wish there's a story about Summer and her soon-to-be-husband guy. Like what kind of stuff really they did that makes Summer change her not-a-married-woman point of view. Yea, the filmmaker not even brave enough to show Summer's husband's face. I mean, why not?

That was a rather stupid open ending and throw me harshly to my old anguish. What exactly change Summer? Tom is perfect. As a human being, as a boyfriend he's nearly perfect. And as a casual couple they're GREAT. The story so much from Tom's point of view, and don't tell Summer's. So this is me as the audience, can't understand what's that thing that makes Summer felt unsure about this perfect Tom?

I won't write this much if Summer were Kim Catrell, dear Samantha in Sex and the City, unmarried until her 50. Her words for a broke up scene with the 2 years boyfriend was "I love you, but I love me more".
So, what changed Summer and not making her become another Samantha?

Monday, June 7, 2010

Day One - 1





This is the day one. Day one of a state that I want, or I thought I wanted. I'm fine so far because this is the day one. The 30 days of searching, contemplating, working super hard,  loving myself, and being alone. Alone but not lonely. Or maybe lonely but happy; feel strong and productive, two words that rather hard to follow these time.

I'm trying to find what I look for, and I hope you find yours too.